This discrepancy sounds like a formula for heterosexual stress until you realize that sexual peak has nothing to do with how great a lover you are. That ability will come with experience and caring - and that increases with age, says Dr. Saul H. Rosenthal, medical director of the Sexual Therapy Clinic of San Antonia and author of Sex Over Forty.
Cultivating skills requires an intermingling of the physical, emotional and intellectual. You have to be aware of what is actually going on in your body and your partner's body, You need to adapt to those changes with a willing and enthusiastic use of your imagination and a spirit of innovation. At the pinnacle of sexuality, a twenty-year- old man produces about a teaspoon of semen a day, he can get aroused just thinking about intercourse, and aroused once again only minutes after orgasm, thanks to his higher level of testosterone. A decade later, the levels have started a gradual decrease, by age forty many men require far more direct stimulation during foreplay to get an erection. At fifty, semen production may be significantly less than half of what it was at twenty and at 60 some guys generally ejaculate only 1 out of every two or 3 times they have intercourse. After 70, the refractory period - the time it takes to obtain an erection again after climaxing - lengthens. What took one to two minutes at seventeen will take one or two days by 70.
Among females, production of the female sex hormone, oestrogen, reaches its height at age 30, bringing with it fast vaginal lubrication, increased desire and much more intense orgasms. At 40, a woman is still capable of conceiving, but 10 years later, she will most likely be approaching or have gone through menopause, during which hormone levels decrease drastically.
Menopause creates physical changes in the vagina, including dryness and fragility, but regular sexual intercourse apparently ameliorates this condition. Relieved of the fear of pregnancy, many women find sexual intercourse a lot more pleasurable. At 60, a woman's orgasms might be more frequent than earlier in life, says Dr. Helen Singer Kaplan, director of the Human Sexuality Program at The New York Hospital-Cornell Medical Centre, because female orgasm is, in part, "a learning process." The male and female physiological changes that take place with age give a fertile ground for a more leisurely satisfaction of sex, When people are youthful, intercourse tends to be urgent and explosive. It's concerned mostly with physical satisfaction and, in many cases, the conception of kids. This is biological and instinctive - and incredibly interesting. But intercourse is not just a matter of athletics and production. With age sexual intercourse develops into this psychological and communicative as well as physical act and scientific studies by Dr. William H. Masters and Virginia Johnson of the Masters Johnson Institute in St. Louis suggest that sexual pleasure in middle age is the best barometer of lifelong pleasure. Sexual intercourse is a natural function and Just because we age doesn't mean we stop functioning effectively. 70 percent of people in their 70s engage in sexual intercourse often and today's emphasis on fitness and health may possibly exaggerate our expectations of future sex.